The Truth Behind Life’s Perils
So often, we as people, think “if things could only be different” or “if only I had more information” that it would change everything. Have you heard of the butterfly effect? A butterfly flapping its wings in one part of the world can affect change in another part. A change that small can cause gargantuan change elsewhere. Thus, if you changed one thing about your life, you could inadvertently change everything. Are you ready for whatever consequences may come as a result? I’d offer that you instead refocus your attention and energy. What happens if instead of changing the way events occur, we change the way we perceive them?
Pressure makes diamonds.
Tough times and difficult situations are not meant to serve as points of regret. Rather, they’re meant to be seen as opportunities for growth. The pressures required to survive difficulty and struggles chisels us into the individuals that we are to become. We see evidence of this concept in Zechariah 4:10 where the Bible specifically tells us not to despise the days of small beginnings. These humble beginnings are likened unto sandpaper smoothing out the texture to create a much more fluent and continuous surface that is free of abrasive debris.
What is the goal here? Our Creator wants to shape us into the best versions of ourselves. As explained in Malachi 3:3, He wants to make us shine like gold — the reflection of Him that is our truest self. This is what we should strive for daily. But to be fully true to ourselves, we must first accept and embrace our moments of pain, strife, turmoil, and the like. When you are ready to wholly embrace yourself on this level, multiple routes awaken for you to walk through. For me, I started a business — completely by accident.
You are the potter, and I am the clay.
Starting Ambrosia Brews is the single most self-defining moment in my life. It’s where I learned to master the cards that I was dealt. In the midst of a pandemic, I learned that I was being refined and smoothed out. With this pandemic greatly narrowing our windows of opportunity, I had two choices: 1) I could either look at what was being ripped away or 2) I could look at what opportunities were available. I chose the latter, and it’s a blessing that I did.
Life is like driving.
Most of us, like the woman in Zaraphath, focus on what we’ve lost instead of what we have left. Like her, many of us look at what we have as if it’s nothing, but our perspective is skewed. When we focus our energy on minimizing ourselves, we ignore the potential that being refined awakens within each of us. As individuals, we venture through so many things, good, bad, and ugly. If we are not careful though, we let our circumstances create a jaded perception of life, which changes the way we see everything. Have you ever wondered why the rearview mirror is so much smaller than the windshield? Maybe it’s because we only need to look back to judge our growth and nothing more.
Discomfort has a way of making memories last much longer than they should. As a businesswoman, I cannot afford to hold onto those memories any longer than is required for me to learn from them because I can’t afford to have my mental, emotional, and spiritual dimensions clogged with past memories that breed only negativity. I refuse to stare into the rearview mirror, tarrying with myself over situations that have already occurred. Being free is my choice; releasing past hurts, disappointments, and losses in exchange for lessons helps me to move forward freely. I’d argue that this process is harder for women because we are incubators. We take in whatever is given, and we store it. We grow it. But we cannot allow what’s passed to prevent us from moving forward and reaching the greatness that we’re destined for. This is something that I have to remind myself of daily. Creating a unique variety of coffee flavors that represents Ambrosia Brews requires the use of all of my senses, so being congested with the past is simply not an option.
Mixology — redefined!
Through the creation of my business, I learned that I also have the gift of mixology. It may not seem like much to you, but it was this gift that gave way to the creation of Ambrosia Brews. Determination to thrive during a pandemic was the catalyst that fertilized the seed. The seed has grown from its baby stage to now reaching infancy. My task is simple, to nurture it to full maturation. The woman of Zaraphath was unable to see the power that she possessed because her perspective was off. Instead of seeing the blessing in the flour and oil, all she saw was its drawbacks. Like her, so many of us miscalculate or misunderstand the gifting that lies before us. This is why there’s beauty in having mentors, friends, and business partners that are willing to help you see the power that you possess. In John 14:12, Jesus said greater works shall you do, but we cannot move forward if we’re still looking behind us.
Most see mixology and immediately think of bartending, but I’d like to play devil’s advocate for a moment. I could make the argument that being a mixologist has a greater impact than the simple mix of adult beverages. When I refer to myself as a mixologist, I’m offering that I have the ability to take what I have available and blend it into something new. The same way that I blend coffee into unique flavors at Ambrosia Brews, we can take situations in our life and create circumstances that shape our futures. In the midst of a pandemic, what can you apply the concept of mixology to?